Recently, I was in a conversation with an athletic administrator who shared their realization that more student-athletes than they would have ever imagined are survivors of sexual misconduct. We discussed the need for trauma-informed training for the entire staff including fellow student-athletes. There was a long pause and then I made the statement, “perpetrators are in every space we find ourselves, too.” To read the full version of this blog, visit my Medium page .

It is Women’s History Month and I am incredibly proud to be a woman. Women run this world. And, while I am proud of the ways I am choosing to heal, love, contribute and show up in truth, I recognize I have a responsibility to name and work towards making right historical and present-day wrongs – especially the harm we cis white women, in particular, have caused Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC), especially Black Indigenous Women of Color (BIWOC). To read the full versi

I don’t know about you but my whiteness shows up every day. Every. Single. Day. This is my lived truth and I will continue to labor to pause, correct and undo the ways I have been socialized to be. I’m not making excuses – I’m being real. On this journey I must take ownership for my wrongs and do better in my next breath. To read the full version of this blog, visit my Medium page .

White Folks, Our Road to Racial Healing Lies in Admitting This Is Who We Are Do we think to ourselves, “I am not a white nationalist, Proud Boy, white supremacist or Trump supporter nor did I vote for him in 2016 or 2020. I am a liberal. I am a lifelong democrat. I am in no way a part of the deadly coup attempt on the United States Capitol. I condemn such acts.” To read the full version of this blog, visit my Medium page.

In my last blog, I provided my perspective on gaslighting and attempted to demonstrate how it is a prominent technique used in race relations when we minimize, deny andr question a Black, Indigenous, or Person of Color (BIPOC) when they tell us how they are feeling. In this blog, I provide two scenarios: Take One where gaslighting occurs and Take Two where the white identifying individual chooses to open to discomfort and understand rather than gaslight. To read the full v

Dear Brave Souls, I’m wrestling with existing within and co-creating spaces that are desperately clinging onto 2019 ways of being. Those spaces operating as if it is “business as usual,” “more is better,” and “capitalism over care.” I wish we could stop for one moment and resist this urge, this pressure to produce, to perform, to create. In fact, I want to bellow from the depths of my being, “let’s be honest that we are living in a global pandemic, a financial crisis, and en

Let’s Acknowledge that Karen Lives in Us, Too Dear fellow White women, By now I’m sure many of us are aware of the White women who are known as “Karen” in our society. The White women who call the police on children of color selling lemonade without a permit or on children of color playing basketball joyfully in cult-a-sac though the “neighborhood” prefers it to be unattended. The women who call police on black men minding their own business sitting in their cars during lun

On August 6th the 2020 Steven Heyman Lecture for APA’s Division 47 will be available – in honesty, I’m both excited and nervous.

Our worth is not in how much we do. Though, capitalism and society would have us believe this because it needs us to in order to operate like “business as usual.” In April, I got swept up in the uncertainty – feeling obligated to say yes out of fear (honestly). Brave souls, I wish I had stopped and listen to my own soul and resisted. This post, this advice is for my future self and for anyone who needs to read this. Your worth is in who you are, there’s nothing to prove, no n